The human

funny selfies with catsA thirty-something living somewhere in the suburbs of Helsinki (Finland).

I’m suffering from depression and anxiety, but I’m slowly coming back to life. I’ve been several times in a psychiatric clinic. I also have an excellent psychiatrist and psychologist. With other words: I’m in good hands, even though I make jokes about them. They know about that, it’s just the way I work. I didn’t start this blog to talk about mental health in general, but how cats affect my recovery. That was at least my plan when I started blogging. In reality, my cats have been taking over my blog which is probably a good sign.

I don’t really know why I am writing this blog in English. Maybe this is just another example of my shrink’s warning words: I have a tendency to make things more complicated than they are. I’ve yet to get back to her with that question. After all, she earns good money on me.

8 Comments

  1. Timmy Tomcat
    March 13, 2015 @ 14:58

    I read your post about wanting a cat but not being sure. I have some depression and social phobias but have learned long ago to manage rather well in life and be successful in my own skin.
    Now to having a cat.
    If you treat a cat as a cat you will be rewarded beyond anything you can think of. They are very loving and empathetic and lend support when it is needed. The flip side is they are cats and unless you know their natural behaviors can be quite exasperating. Litter issues, scratching, getting the night crazies are just some of the things that can be difficult, if, and I stress IF, the cat is thought of as a little person. They do not do these aggravating things to get even, for spite or just being plain ornery. They do them because they are cats. We have 7 in a our very small home and get along rather well. Not to say that I have to daily do things to manage behavior. One cat is much easier as you do not have the hissy interaction and hierarchy issues which in dogs are rather fixed. Cats are always in a state of flux responding to what we see and much that we have not the faintest idea. If you really want to try a cat find a good rescue and explain that it will be your first and you could use some suggestions on how to manage a kitty. A good rescue will agree to take a cat back if it does not work out and many insist the cat be returned if there is a problem.
    Hope this helps
    Dad of 7 and loving every second of it

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  2. admin
    March 13, 2015 @ 19:12

    Hi

    Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment! (Besides, I’m happy I found your blog that way. I’ve been googling a lot (search terms “cat blog” “blog about cats”), but yours wasn’t listed)

    I’m not only a newbie to cats, but also to blogging. I have already made my decision: I want to get cats. A bit embarrasing – I thought that this was obvious, but thinking about it, it isn’t. I’ll write a posting about that when I get home from work.

    I’d love to go get a cat from my local animal shelter. I’ve already been there, but they don’t want their cats to become inside-outdoor cats. I’ve been thinking a lot about that. I live rather rural and I really would like my cats to go outside when they want to. I’ll also write a posting about that question, I know it’s a contradicious one. Since the animal shelter isn’t an option, I’m searching for cats online. There’re quite a few announcement boards where private persons are searching for a new home for their cats.

    Thank you for your thoughts on treating cats like cats (and not persons); I’m aware of that, but you’re right – it’ll be a learning process. I’ll try to inform myself as much as I can.

    All the best

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  3. Punapippuri
    March 19, 2015 @ 15:51

    My cats have helped me through many mental health issues, and undoubtedly are the reason I have kept getting up out of bed and looking after myself – as they demand I look after them. I started with two and then the gang grew: 13 is maybe too many! Most come from rescues/rehomed and when I came to Finland I discovered that pedigree cats are very popular here and now I have burmese and a sphynx. In England I completely rejected them as there were so many moggies desperate for homes, but here the situation is little different. And I have discovered the breed cats give and take different things from me too. It might be worth considering those aspects too. A visit to a local cat show and talking to breeders – if you feel brave enough to do so – can be really helpful for this. However, deep deep down, I know my heart belongs to moggies. Good luck!

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    • the cat
      March 19, 2015 @ 19:12

      Thank you so much for your input! Yes – getting out of bed and take at least care of the cats is certainly a great benefit! Interesting that you’re mentioning the cultural aspect of pedigree. I’m searching for moggies and was surprised to find so many pedigree cats on Finnish webpages. I’ve nothing against breeders, but I think I’ll go for the moggy version. I’ve never thought of getting a pedigree cat; partly because I don’t know anything about cat breeds, partly due to financial reasons.

      I’ve been at my local shelter in February, but didn’t continue looking for cats there. I wanted to have inside-outdoor cats, but the shelter requires that their cats become indoor cats. Anyways, I reconsidered and I’ll probably get inside cats now, so I could have a look at shelter next week. (Or maybe even tomorrow).

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  4. Austin Towers
    April 19, 2015 @ 14:56

    Hi, I came across your blog on the Sunday Selfie blog hop! What the other commenters have said is correct about treating cats as cats! They live in the moment and hold no malice. But as cats they do cat things as Timmy’s dad said. For things like scratching furniture you should provide alternative scratch areas and gently point them to those places (cat trees are good 🙂 when they start on the good stuff! The indoor/outdoor thing is an ongoing debate amongst bloggers. Here in the UK, most let their cats go outside freely, but in the US much less so – natural predators, traffic hazards have to be considered.

    Cats can be very therapeutic and give so much love when you allow them and treat them kindly. I wish you well with your new life with cats and I shall be following your journey with interest. BTW the cat blogging community is the best. Loads of support and advice available 🙂 Hugs, Caro

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  5. the cat
    April 19, 2015 @ 20:03

    Hi Caro,

    thank you for your kind and thoughtful words!

    I think we’ll come along well. Things will certainly change when they’re living with me, but we’ve bonded a lot during the last weeks. (I adopted them a month ago, but they had to stay at the shelter because of ear mites. I’ve been visiting them almost every day). It was always great seeing them, and regardless how tired I was, they really cheered me up.

    I bought a cat tree, but I don’t mind if they’re destroying my furniture. I’ve only very old stuff; much of it is already broken.

    I believe it’s very wise to remind cat newbies that cats are cats, and not human. It’s easy to forget that, and to think about one own needs first.

    Thank you for the cultural aspect – I was actually surprised that I seemed to be the only one who wanted to have outdoor cats. I can’t have outdoor cats (the Finnish law restricts outdoor cats), but I still wished I could.

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  6. Joan Malette
    May 1, 2015 @ 23:09

    So nice to make your acquaintance. I’m a lifelong cat owner and I know your new family members will see you through some tough times. Struggling with anxiety issues is exhausting and I’ve had lots of experience. I look forward to following your journey. Joan

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  7. the cat
    May 2, 2015 @ 10:42

    Hi Joan,

    Thank you for coming over! I’m sorry to read that you know what anxiety means. 🙁 I wish you all the best!

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